I have a collar me profile and have a lot of people contact me asking to discuss my life in a 24/7 relationship, which I'm happy to do. After all, there's always something we can learn from others and it's interesting to hear how other people do what it is we do.
Sadly these conversations don't usually work out the way I hope. In a good 85% of cases, the conversation becomes about fishing for dirty stories within the first three or four messages. In general, it tends to be people asking about what type of punishments I receive. For some reason, these messages are always written in text speak, almost as if the sender was already typing with one hand in anticipation of the response. I try to steer the conversation in the direction of an interesting discussion about punishment dynamics and styles of dominance, but find myself being pressed for the specific details. They want a blow-by-blow account (no pun intended) of the whole procedure. I can only assume they are hoping for a story that begins with 'He walked in and caught me with a cucumber....' and ends with '...all over my face'. You can feel free to fill in the middle with whatever pleases you.
I'm by no means shy about the details of my sex life, but I always resist this type of chat. After all, this is my life, not a fantasy. If I've been punished, that means there has been a hiccup somewhere in our domestic bliss. There's something mildly disturbing about the thought of someone getting all excited over something bad happening to us. I totally understand that lots of porn and erotica uses the premise of a punishment as an excuse for naughty fun time, and that a lot of these people have fantasies which involve the words ''You bad girl, bend over this instant!'. So I can see why this might be an appealing topic of conversation. But honestly, we're grown ups, we don't need an excuse to break out the paddle. I've given myself to my husband, if he wants to whip me for fun, he can. A punishment means something has gone wrong.
I don't blame people for asking the questions, though I do slightly blame them when I try to explain the above, and get the follow up message 'Duz he hit ur tits?' It further adds insult to injury when people asking these questions do so under the pretense of learning or getting ideas on how to discipline and maintain control of their own sub. Really? You're so lacking in imagination that you need to know whether Husband likes me in a particular colour of underwear for spankings?
Anyway, I'm going off on a rant here. I just wanted to explain, in the unlikely event that any of those people read this, why I get tired of this question.
And as a peace offering and gesture of goodwill, I have decided to describe my most recent punishment for your reading pleasure:
As a punishment for continuing to ask for a mars bar after he said no, I have been banned from eating mars bars for life.
Isn't that hot?
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